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Written by Aratunde Blessing

LEARNING TO PRIORITIZE YOURSELF

Practice saying No! If you are someone selfless, then saying ‘No’ is very challenging to you because you want to be there for everyone. However, this is important.
According to Myles Munroe, he said, ‘Our life is the sum total of all the decisions we make every day and those decisions are determined by our priorities’.
Robert Greene also said ‘Create a ladder of values and prioritize your life, reminding yourself of what really matters to you’.
When it comes to the area of prioritizing yourself, you need to get a list and know what is really good for you. Getting to do an exercise on your own can also help in the sense that, you breath in and out; and start your work for the day. Get a list, jot down and take it a step at a time.
In the world where we are, everyone wants to be in hundred places and everyone wants to learn a different vocation for a week. When prioritizing, try to understand yourself and your mental health. Practice saying No to some engagements that draw you back, not every opportunity is appropriate for you.
I remember quoting a scripture in Philippians 4:13; ‘I can do all things through Christ that gives me strength’. It is most likely a well quoted scripture for everyone but without prioritizing, you just see yourself getting stock at a point and moving to another thing. You become ‘Jack of all trade, master of none’.
We have 24 hours in a day. For me, I will not sit idle doing nothing. I have to eat the frog by setting boundaries.
🥇 I begin to take notice of whom I spend time with, either profitable or not.
🥈 I take time out to reflect on, and identify my needs, desires and on who I want to become.
This really helps in my busy schedule. In no time, I have my lesson plan drawn.
I would love to tell you a short story - A long time ago, I was trying to set boundaries for myself and I was told that the way you treat others, thats the same way people will treat you. I had to adjust myself by doing the right things.
Moyo and Alice were very good friend of mine from childhood. It was just 4:30am when I heard my phone rang. On getting to check, it was Moyo calling that she is in need of me. I had to get myself prepared, get my car key, not even minding my untidy hair. On getting to her place (it was an hour journey), she was lying helplessly on the floor.
What could have happened to Moyo? I thought within myself. She is this decent lady, that has no time for men, always minding her business and getting herself equipped in the Business Sector. She just concluded her ICAN course. Myself, who was an Ijebu woman, as my friends call me because of how I prioritize myself, thereby affecting my spending. I am just this Money Woman.
We got to know that Moyo has not been prioritizing herself and that is why she comes home late and her tables are filled with many files. No wonder she eats junks when she didn't have time to take care of herself. Eventually she recovered from the sickness but this has affected a part of her brain, making her unable to reason well.
Since then, I have learnt a deep lesson in prioritizing myself as a career lady who wants to put smiles on peoples’ faces.